Create Your Brilliant Future

To create a ravishing future, you need to release past emotional blockages (negative emotions such as guilt, doubt, anger, and a scarcity mindset). Suppose you are planning a trip and your bag is filled with old stuff. You need to create space for this stuff to fit in. To make that space, you have to get rid of old extra items that won't be useful on your trip. To reach your desired future, you need to get rid of the negative emotions that block your way.

Do you find it difficult to let go of people or memories that have hurt you? Do you feel stuck in the past?

Let’s understand four major negative emotions that act as a hindrance to creating the loving future that you want.

Anger: when do you feel angry? Do you feel angry when someone compares you with another person (your cousins, with your colleague)? Do you feel less than others and do you feel hatred towards yourself?

 Anger can shatter relationships when thrown at someone, and it can take the form of resentment if buried inside ourselves. As we all know, every negative emotion leads to disease, so resentment results in a disease called cancer. Both ways can be harmful to oneself and one's relationships, as well. 

The easiest technique to release anger is scribbling. You will need a plain paper or you can take any newspaper. You will also require crayons. You can choose any color you like. Scribble as rigorously as you can, release all anger on paper for 5 to 7mins and notice how you feel. Do it for at least 5 consecutive days.

 Guilt: It is a feeling of the blame for having done something wrong. You wish you could turn back and change what happened. Guilt hampers your ability to enjoy relationships, leads to depression, decreases focus and productivity.

 Do you feel guilty about a few decisions you have made in the past? Do you feel guilty about speaking about something in the past that has hurt others?

In everything you do or any decisions you make, have a clear understanding of why you are doing it. For example, enrolling in a course, meeting new people, doing business, parenting, or entering into a new relationship. Be clear with your intention and what you want as an outcome and communicate that.

Doubt: I have noticed that opportunities are always waiting for us, but we are the biggest hindrance by questioning our abilities to create the life that we want. Do all these questions pop into your head? Will I be able to do it? If I fail then? What if I feel dumb? What if they don’t understand? Will I be able to clear this interview? will I be able to handle this situation?

 We all have a big fear of ‘No’, a fear of rejection. But if we don’t risk receiving ‘no’, we will never receive the ‘Yes’.

We, humans, become more comfortable with familiar things. As we are aware that it is the biggest hindrance to our growth. We are so addicted to it we know how it feels. We are familiar with fear and doubting ourselves therefore we are much comfortable with it. We need to get more comfortable with ‘no’s’ to get more ‘yeses’ as opportunities.

 I would love to share one beautiful exercise to release doubt. Pretend doubt is a person and tell him off! Write down all that you want to say. Then read it aloud you might be surprised with the result.

Scarcity Mindset: In scarcity, we feel threatened if we lose something or if it can be taken from us. We sometimes feel jealous of others who possess what we desire. People and things that remind you of your situation will attract you more when you have a scarcity mindset. If you are wearing a red lens, everything you see will appear red. Replace your lens (the way you see it). Every hardship and setbacks are a part of everything that is being rearranged for you to achieve your goals. See this setback as laying the foundation for you to achieve your goals. It will be impossible to have, hold, or maintain anything without a solid foundation.

Lastly, ‘you become like those who you surround yourself with'. This will help you to change your lens easily.

Written By

Niyoci Desai
Mind Transformation Coach